Confidence and a sense of humour are sexy and the amount of women that orgasm through penetration could be counted on one hand Most of us girls don't actually use penetration when we masturbate

Size is only an issue as far as men are concerned, it might seem like it's against everything thing you have seen or heard but I am reminded of a conversation with several work colleagues about what they like and dislike in bed and all but one said that the foreplay was what they enjoy and the intercourse only happened to satisfy the male partner but the quicker it was over the better.

Learning to love and accept and understand yourself sounds like a good place to start