I constantly watch out for/protect my T. I am always concerned about her thoughts, feelings, boundaries, etc.

My T finally confronted me about it in the middle of a crisis. She told me to stop being concerned about her. She knows I care and she appreciates it. But if I keep protecting her, she can't do her job, and she can't help me to the extent that I need.

Then, of course, came the argument that I'm just her "job". But anyways, I realized I was hurting both myself and my T by constantly worrying about my T. I still worry, but I try really hard to not protect her from myself.

As an added note: I thought my T was possibly borderline anorexic not because of her size, but because of how and what she ate. So I emailed her. She emailed me back: "Thank you for your concern." That was that. I know now she's not anorexic...she's just has extremely weird eating habits (but I assume it's healthier than my eating habits ).