Sabina.
Wondering if it is related to the power imbalance? I've thought about this recently. I'm so regressed, vulnerable, and needy....Meanwhile, T doesn't need anything from me. I've told him before-you don't expose yourself to any vulnerability; meanwhile, i'm totally under his spell.
Nevertheless, i trust him enough to be that regressed. I really think it makes all the difference. Because it takes you back to the time when you were a child--innocent, spontaneous, and free; that's the time when you were internalizing your parents; developing your sense of self....
I do really think this is key....but i have to think about this some more...i do think that the more your defense are down, the more you can take in. It can be a beautiful experience.
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Originally Posted by SabinaS
When you talk about dropping defences and regressing, I shudder inside a bit. I realise the idea of being completely regressed/vulnerable makes me want to vomit, I can't bare the idea. And yet, when I have been vulnerable and been at rock bottom, I have felt as though I got more out of it, and he has been very containing and reliable. But the let downs still take me back to square 1. It's a long journey I guess.
Calming - I think what skies meant (correct me if I'm wrong), is that over time, the therapy helps us to open up and allow more nurturing goodness in. The therapist's input usually remains consistent... in fact consistency is quite important. But during the therapy, we slowly learn to trust through good experiences of being cared for and kept in mind - thus allowing ourselves to take more good nurturing in.
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