I am brand new to this board and you all seem so supportive.
My problem is my relationship with my family-which consist of my parents and a sister. My real problems started about 4 years ago when a businees I was in with my parents was sold. It was told to me that it was my business to do with what I wanted. They stayed on to help. They were paid . When I found a buyer they took over and sold the business that was still in their name...hey I trusted them. The amout i would recieved was agreed upon a long time before the sale..and when it came down to it they tried to set me up in front of their accountant, saying i was trying to steal from them. Thank goodness I was smart enough to include my husband in that meeting. He never would of believed how they turned. They just sat there as the acct accused me of "stealing" money. My sister who is in her 30's is still dependant on my parents, who now live out of state. She also accuses me of stealing saying she would of turned over all money from sale to my parents because they are up in years. But this is not the heart of the matter. Since this sale four years ago i have gone to my parents house out of state to work on their house help with repairs, even laiid tile. I have also taken them all expenses paid on two family vacations and have made sure that they saw my family at least twice a year. But my feeling is that they think of me as a self-centered jerk and they appease me just to see their grandkids. I say this because every so often I get" too bad you flunked out of college"(i quit because i wanted to quit) ...I finially had to get my grades from college to show them!!!! even then it was "well you did take 3 years to graduate community college." I make this an issue because when I ask my relatives abroad they say "yeah mom and dad said you flunked out of college. I always felt as if my parents were trying to cover their *****. I always felt it wasnt ever good enough for them. My sister has had numerous ailment the most recent of which has been stomach cancer. When my parents came down to check on her health she couldn't produce any doctors or prescriptions to support this. My feeling is she want attention, and this is the only way she can get it. But my parents feed into this even though my mother was a nurse. My parents admitted to me that my sister is mentally sick and needs help even though they are draining their depleting nest egg. My sister and dont speak--I have tried to reconcile several times only to get rebuffed....she just stops talking to me. We had her over for christmas last year and she was mad we didnt get her any presents....crazy I though getiing the whole family together for the holidays was a good present. I could go on but just need some advise and good thoughts