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Originally Posted by cureav
I'm sorry to say this, but I don't like that behavior of creating problems. Its wasting others time and energy, and also you can get a clue of a person who is a giver and people pleaser, so you can rely on him when ever you need or feel low. I was a people pleaser, but now I have a radar for people like you. (nardar dot com)
Sorry if I misunderstood or labeled you falsely.
Please, try to get to the bottom of the reasoning why are you creating problems. Think of what "normal" is for someone else. Think of where would we get if everyone around would only creating a problems.
Also, I hate people who desperately need to evoke a stronger emotional reaction in others. This also drains energy unnecessarily.
One thing in that is in common for all this, is that a person who is creating these problematic situations and evoking strong emotional responses, in fact, is enjoying when someone else is feeling bad, has troubles and problems, so the first person could feel better seeing that there is someone else in worse position than him. That's a kind of a relief that someone suffers more than him.
Of course gaslighting is abuse. Currently I am experiencing it at workplace, but there are some tools for it on the internet.
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uhm... what am I missing now? U do realize your in NPD forum, right?
Where users are most likely suffering from NPD or are intrested of PD or have been involved with NPD.
I sometimnes have periods when;
I create bronblems. I hurt people, I manipulate, I create feelings, I gas-light.
I do that all, but i do it , becouse i have to. Becouse i must. Becouse i CANNOT live other way. Becouse if i dont, everything breakes apart. Everything in me comes in vain, everything i am, becomes so painfull, so hard to stand, so hurtfull that i lose my ability to live. I try to breathe, but it seems theres no air. I try to stand, but my legs are week and cant hold me up. I try to speak, but voice inside my trhought is burning, i try to see, but i blinded. I would die away, if i could.
Then there are periods when:
I receive all of that i do from a classic NPD and i can breathe again.
My options are, that eather i do that all, or i receive that all. There are no midway, no other options, no other ways .
And right now , i would so pleasetly put you down on your knees just for beeing able to do things in so many different ways that i cant. And i envy you for it, therefor, i would gas-light you, if i'd nkow you in real life.
is this deep enough for you to understand the reasons why we do what we do?
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