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Originally Posted by ~Christina
Im a tad confused .. Did you not realize you and her didnt have a lot in common before you married her? Can you help her learn English or pay for classes maybe?
Your kind of in a bit of a mess...
She now carries your child... Shes in another country and cant speak the language.. So you divorce her? What does she do then ? Stay there ? Move back to Africa? You will have a child to support and be part of the child's life ?
Does your wife even know your unhappy ? Maybe marriage counseling could benefit you.
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Thank you Christina! Just to explain more Dutch is the first language here in the Netherlands, but everyone speaks English.
we have discussed the issue but reading is not her hobby, she loves sleeping and watching TV, I've started gaining weight because she can't even cook healthy meals.
To be honest, I thought language will not a big deal in the beginning because she is a graduate and she hold a degree in political science but what is shocked me more her communication skills, as she can't makes friends. I've told her from the very beginning that I will not have much time to hang around because of the type of my work. But she is not doing enough to improve herself.
We do not argue as she has a nice personality. Just we do not talk much only about what we are going to eat today!! I know there is a child is coming but I can still care him. I do feel divorce is much better for me and her and our coming child. She is a nice and beautifl and surely she will find someone else to love and marry however, I don't want to compromise my and her happiness what so ever. Because I will be travelling for a couple of months, shhe will go back to her home country to give birth there, . Anyway, i will not take a the divorce decision until my child is born, by then my feeling towards her may change!!