His "reality" is likely very different from yours. Why did you say he has "mild aspergers" in the subject? As someone who has been successful keeping an office job I personally hate that term. If I learned how to compensate does that mean I am less affected than others?

Based on your description he seems to have many problems related to Asperger's and possibly depression. You might be expecting too much from him at this time. It is highly likely he did not enjoy playing for audiences which could explain why he didn't continue doing so. I *HATE* feedback from other human beings. Why do you think playing computer games isn't fun for him? You are judging his activities using your own preferences and ideals. I think you should put more effort into trying to understand him rather than changing him to be what you consider an adult.