Yes you are love. One of the lessons in trauma is that anything under the sun that can.happen can happen to US. Whatever your dad thought he was doing with his infant stealing and selling actions was something a human being was capable of doing. It happened to you because it can happen in our own very civilised culture just as easily and often as it happens anywhere.

Trauma doesn't happen because we violate some cultural rule. Trauma happens because we are monkeys with elaborate brains trying really hard to become the kind of people we can imagine. Some of us fail.

But to sneer your question, for myself, I do not withhold forgiveness from anyone who asks. It is surprising how few do ask. So I don't think of them unless I can report them to someonewho.can slow down or prevent their destructive ways. Not for revenge or "healing" . For innocent others. Because we owe that duty of care to one another. So we can evolve.