For me.. it's that I have a pretty high opinion of myself... I display plenty of pride and arrogance... I have a hard time being objective about my own faults..... I cause pain to others and cause problems, and yet, I want to justify my behavior, even if I know it does cause others pain.

I have a hard time seeing how it might be possible to work together with people towards some common goal (unless, of course, it's my goal, then I think everyone else ought to work together with me towards that goal)..... it's all about me.. all the time.