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Originally Posted by Underground
Couldn't agree more!!! NY has to be one of the highest populated N places you could be!!
Don't remember the names here but I have read quite a few posts and am somewhat lost as to where things turned here. I have been around the forum for a little while and have experienced the other circus first(some know which I am speaking of). The one thing that separated this place from the others are the guests. I always felt that this place was really frequented by the "N"s who recognized what they are and were trying other things or just getting to release things they could never dream of doing in real life. Problem is every now and again you get the other side joining in a conversation. Now I do actually like one non here but when others come and try to say things like "How do you enjoy doing that to others" or "you are a mean person" it really aggravates me. If nons want to come here fine, do not come here to post your crap judgments because as I have said before there are some places that are for only us! I get that some want to understand better and im ok with that. Read all you like, try to understand but do realize that if you are not like us it will be nearly impossible to truly understand "us"...
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I don't currently "have" an N (is it weird that people refer to it that way? I kind of think so), nor would I take it upon myself to attempt to "fix" one if I did (also a weird concept to me), but I was married to one for many years, and many in my family are, with those who are not still being cluster B (myself, while I do have a couple of traits that could be considered borderline, I could probably have more closely been diagnosed with histrionic at one point in my life) ..but my sister has the strongest alignment in her N ways. We haven't talked in some years. It's been as painful being separated from her as it was remaining in our complicated relationship as survivors of different motherlodes of horrendous abuse by way of the same perpetrator in my father.
But I feel quite blessed to have had the opportunity to read the posts of many on here, of Underground and other Ns who in essence are able to say here many things I don't think my sister would 'fess to anywhere, and it has absolutely helped me to foster a better understanding of the reasoning behind what she does. I already have a lifelong, incurable, natural and absolute adoration and empathy for her, if not her entire gamut of behaviors; the better understanding I've gotten here may indeed be the missing piece, to help towards my potentially allowing both her and myself our respective foibles at least in the context of our relationship, so that we can move forward, and for that I'm thankful. (But for which I really don't expect to be liked or anything.
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Personally, I'm glad that people actively express both their approval and their dissent here, with the ways that others may personify aspects of a personality construct; no doubt it can be cathartic and enlightening for all involved, since it's a conversation likely few of us are going to have IRL in quite the same way.
Best regards to all
