I have to agree with the person above. And I also want to say that it could be helpful to note how much being thought of as "easy" or a "slut" by others affects you. It's so demeaning that you're afraid to be who you are.
I agree that we shouldn't be "slut-shaming" as many call it, but at the same time we'll never be able to control what others think or feel about us. Just because someone may call you easy is no reason to let that change what you want to do. Be you. Others can say what they want, but ultimately they have no idea who you really are.
This makes me wonder if there isn't something about that "slut-shaming" culture that has hurt you in ways that could be resolved, and that maybe resolving those would bring you some closure and give you the power to be yourself again.
Also, there's nothing wrong with flirting, and flirting can mean so many different things to so many different people. If you're afraid of getting hurt by someone who's only willing to use you, it may be helpful to guard yourself until certain men you're interested in have proven that they are trustworthy. After all, you have the right to know what you're getting into. At the same time, you have the right to do what you want without being judged by others.
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