Hi NoChildSupport, I'd say that sometimes people do care but they instinctively fall back on some of the misconceptions that go around as they either don't know what to do, feel "out of their depth", or are more used to them.
Or maybe they've "seen" some of those things "working" with some other people who aren't in crisis........they see them working........so to them they must/should work with you e.g. if they can just cheer you up or "why can't you cheer up"...........you just need to be distracted from...........ignore it and it'll sort itself out or "you'll get over it"............you need to encouraged to "pull yourself together"........that sort of thing???
And yes, sometimes people just won't, can't, don't want to "get it" but for the others who may care, try to explain in as much detail as you can how it is for you when you're struggling, and what you want from them at those times.
Some people might find it easier to take on board if you tell them when you aren't actually struggling/needing them as much. And I know it may be frustrating but you might need to tell them "more than once".
Then maybe it could help them understand/"take it in" if you found some information for them, or some youtube clips are quite personal??? Just something to back up what you're saying to them.
And on the odd time they are actually doing the right thing, try to make sure you're letting them know/that you appreciate it. Because for some people they may be assuming that as you aren't suddenly "all fixed" by their comforting words (if only it were that easy, hey??!!) what they're doing isn't working/helping that much. And those words from you might encourage them to do that more/to do that the next time.
And you know, do what helps you too if people aren't understanding, whether that's writing down your feelings, lessening the pressures on yourself, doing something that helps..........
But for all the people who aren't supportive, try to make sure you've got people in your life who are supportive, even if it's us..........hopefully we count as well??!!
Alison