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Originally Posted by skies_
This is a really good thread. Thank you for starting it.
I don't want to tell you to get a new therapist, but I want to mention that a lot that you say (not just above) makes me think you might be really well suited to be paired up with a therapist who is psychoanalytically trained, or if your therapist already is, then someone who is moreso.
It seems like there's a lot of conflict going on in your mind, but that you are doing a great job sorting through it via this thread.  |
I'm definitely conflicted. My current T offers coaching as well and I maybe am more suited to that with her. When I last brought up my doubts about the relationship, she was very nice, said she was always there to go back to if I wanted and that she loved me. Then I decided not to take a break and stayed with her, and in the session she said I was 'dumping' her, ie denying that she cared and running away. But I never ever wanted to ditch my T - I was genuinely afraid it was bad for me to keep going. I don't ever want to not have her in my life, hence thinking about coaching if I can't do the deeper stuff. Though maybe it's all just a defence, and I'll be able to someday.