I'm busy doing so right now... Primarily found a T because I couldn't keep a handle on the BPD bullshyt and it was ruining my relationship over and over again...

So far so good

My bf is proud of my efforts, acknowledges the changes I'm implementing and I must add he supports therapy because it helps me, not because it makes his life easier.

I tried working on the BPD stuff while we were separated, but honestly, its much easier for me to not behave all Borderline when single than when there's a "target" in place.

So it was really hard to keep implementing what I had learned when we got back together, and I kept beating myself up for "failing"....

Having therapy and a relationship simultaneously gives me real time practice to implement what I'm learning and has done wonders in creating awareness surrounding how my behaviour affects my loved ones and allows me to research the roots of my thought processes as well as how they affect me as they pop up...

So for me personally, its better working on this stuff while there's an accepting and loving bf to practice on.