|
Aug 29, 2014, 03:37 AM
|
 |
|
|
Member Since: Mar 2010
Location: Indy
Posts: 43,373
|
|
Long story short: Hubby said he'd give me $100 today to help with expenses. Now says he can't. I told him "Don't worry about it. I wasn't counting on you coming through so had budgeted as if you weren't helping. So it's all good. No worries." He got mad I asked what he wouldn't speak. Then he just called again on the phone and said I'll get you the money and then started yelling. Apparently I hurt his feelings with my statement. So I simply told him honey look at every promise you've ever made me. We went down the line and he's kept two. He's not drinking anymore and he' never cheated. I said what matters is on the big stuff he follows through but when it comes to little everyday stuff he has no follow through so I don't count on him to do what he says.
He's in a snit now and says I have deeply wounded him and he doesn't know why I stay married to him if I can't count on him and think he's a flake and I have rocked our entire marriage with this revelation(drama queen PUH-LEASE! )
I'm not seeing the big deal here. I can count on him for the big stuff. That's what matters. How is my discounting any little promises he makes such a big deal? In the grand scheme it doesn't matter because he will calm down and forget but this is stupid.
|