{{{{{{{{{{{{Jess}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}} It all boils down to what YOU can handle and what you can't. It's how YOU feel that matters. It could possibly be your illness that makes things seem worse than they are, but my gut tells me he needs to be more considerate of your feelings.

When having a deep conversation with my favorite cousin who happens to be a minister and has a degree in psychology (whatever it is. I'm not sure) he was telling me that my husband's "easy going" nature was if not abuse, it was neglect of me and my feelings for exactly the same reasons your BF made you feel bad.

It doesn't have to be premeditated or on purpose. They simply don't know how their thoughtlessness is affecting you. When you have that "sit-down" to talk about things, you need to be very clear and very specific about your feelings. You don't need to make excuses for yourself even if it's the illness affecting your perception. You're feelings are what they are and he needs to consider them as they are at the moment. They certainly don't seem irrational to me! As your illness gets more under control, things will be easier for the two of you. It doesn't mean that he'll forever have to make concessions for you.

Uh... when I read your post where you said you need to be more agressive, I thought, "Can we change that to assertive?"

It's all a learning process, Hun. Every event in life is a lesson. {{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{Jess}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}} An extra hug for ya!




<font color=blue>"Our doubts are traitors and make us lose the good we oft might win by fearing to attempt" --Shakespeare</font color=blue>