I always thought I would never be comfortable/safe with a male T.

My last T was female and there were many times she crossed boundaries and acted inappropriate towards me (I did not know what was happening was wrong - she was the doctor so I believed the problem was me. I thought I was overreacting or my feelings of being violated were just because I didn't know what normal was, etc.) Long story short - she terminated me without warning, which in hindsight was a blessing in disguise.

I have been seeing my current male T for more than 10 years. Which is very weird considering a lot of what I deal with involves csa.

I don't think gender matters as much as your ability to trust, connect, and feel safe with the individual.

That's how it is for me anyways....sorry if TMI