If you're familiar with DBT then you will know all about this.

This week I am practicing opposite action and I think it's going quite well.. Not sure if it makes me FEEL better but I am ACTING better.

I said to my best friend would I be able to stay at his on Wednesday or Thursday.
He replied Thursday would be best.
I was actually expecting him to say 'of course which ever night, you know you don't have to ask you are always welcome.'
As he has said this a lot of times.

What I wanted to do was just ignore him, because he didn't want me there on Wednesday and obviously he had more important things to do than see me.

But instead I just agreed on Thursday and went over on Thursday.

My mum is away with My brothers and I asked when she would be back and she said on Saturday or Sunday. I said 'well I was going to come over Saturday but I won't bother now!'

I was so annoyed that she hadn't already decided on Saturday because she knew I would usually come over.

She replied that even if they did come back Saturday it would be until late.

This is still bothering me and I would usually confront her or hassle her or even go to where she is...

But my opposite action was to just accept I won't see them this weekend.

Because I obviously can't cope with being on my own I asked my the same friend from above whether I could stay Saturday as well..

He said that would be great.. So this made me happy because he seemed excited I was coming over.

The opposite action was i usually would have said something like 'my mums away and she doesn't even care about what I am doing so can I stay over because I can't face being on my own...'
But I said 'what are you doing Saturday? Fancy me coming over and hanging out? '

So because of these I realise things didn't escalate and end up eventually getting worse. Plus I haven't made anyone else feel bad. It does take a lot of conscious effort to think about my reactions and go against my initial instinct