Thank you both for replying! Please re-read my original. I said I had done a LOT of research and everything I read said "bingo". Believe me, a suicide attempt and tattoos (which the person admits were very painful) were not the 2 single things that alerted me to BPD--almost every red flag stunned me. But I will definitely take your cautions seriously. I have no plans to share my thoughts with anyone except here. It doesn't really matter what the fancy name is. The problem(s) still exist. Thanks again.