hello gemani:

If that was my problem, I'd find a marriage counselor to help me figure out what to do FOR THE SAKE of my SON. I would do my best to get honest and useful answers to questions that I would have about MY SON'S future! I would focus on the needs of my son to guide me in my decisions from now until he is at least 18 years old since his needs are the most important issue for me - not my wife or myself.
good luck,
jim