Yes, of course, it can be very simple things, not just words, that trigger all kinds of memories for me.

I can see how that comment would be really significant for you. You fight so hard against the programming you received as a young girl to not show emotion. It's fighting so hard to come out, and then the old message starts up that it's wrong for it to come out.

I say let it all out. At every opportunity. I can see the need to protect your son from the stress of it, but as far as others in your life, like your sister, I would just let them see what they see, and not feel a bit of shame or guilt about it. The rest of your family is probably repressed emotionally as well, I'm guessing.

Just do what you have to do to take care of yourself. The rest of the world be damned.