No need to, I don't suffer from reading or comprehension difficulties.

Re-read my reply, my concern with you coming to BPD as a conclusion was based on the fact that obtaining such a DX is a verrrry personal journey for a patient as the fault is in the root (invisible to outsiders) while the outcome is in the rotten fruits we bare (which affect the people around us)...

This DX is more like a personal journey toward self-awareness and change, than going into a Drs office where he rambles your diagnosis and prognosis and sends you on your merry way.

Getting a Bipolar diagnosis was much simpler than a BPD one as my Drs had to observe and learn A LOT about my thought processes and the havoc they wreak before even thinking about labelling me. In actual fact, I knew the label fit before they did exactly BECAUSE I am privy to my mind and how it works...

So unless you've been privy to her innermost thoughts and fears, and the extent they reach, I'm not sure how you have come to this conclusion.

Incase I have somehow been unclear, here is a list of the symptoms, which may I add, present in different combinations, are sometimes transient, and due to individuality are experienced and presented differently...

-Frantic efforts to avoid real or imagined abandonment

-Pattern of unstable and intense interpersonal relationships characterized by alternating between extremes of idealization and devaluation

-Identity disturbance, markedly and persistently unstable self-image or sense of self

-Impulsivity in at least two areas that are potentially self-damaging (e.g., promiscuous sex, eating disorders, binge eating, substance abuse

-Recurrent suicidal behavior, gestures, threats or self-injuring behavior such as cutting, interfering with the healing of scars (excoriation)

-Affective instability due to a marked reactivity of mood (e.g., intense episodic dysphoria, irritability or anxiety)

-Chronic feelings of emptiness, worthlessness

-Inappropriate anger or difficulty controlling anger (e.g., frequent displays of temper, constant anger, recurrent physical fights)

-Transient, stress-related paranoid ideation, delusions or severe dissociative symptoms

Again I wonder how you can check these off a list unless you've seen deep into the recesses of such a mind...

Ps. I'm not trying to start fires or fan flames, I'm just trying to clarify why I'm skeptical about your hunch. For all I know you are privy to the deep recesses of her mind.

At any rate, if she has this DX, it means your research is verrrry wrong regarding where you think she "should be" as she's right on schedule, because apparantly recovery takes between 5 and 10years!