FunFem....

I am very sorry to hear of the issues that you are having with your husband. It definitely sounds like he has a sexual addiction, which should be addressed aggressively. A little porn is probably normal for most guys. Three to four hours a day and 10 CDs worth of pictures is a problem.

There may very well be some underlying issues (depression) that are the basis for his actions. He has trained his brain to get that "feel good" feeling from porn. And, it is very likely that, despite what he says to the contrary, that he is embarrassed abou it.

Such an addiction interferes with one's ability to focus that time and energy on the relationship. One becomes unable to become aroused in a normal lovingrelationship because they have trained themsleves to become aroused by other means.

This problem may not have anything to do with his love for you. If you love him, work with him to help him through it and get him the help he needs.

I was once in your husband's place and lost a wonderful woman. Now I am alone. I have worked through it am a stronger, better person but it is too late. Don't have it be too late for your relationship.