Your own health, both physical and mental, should be of great concern to you here. You are taking care of these children, and crying all the time, not sleeping, plus working as a teacher. Your state of mind, the sadness and depression, doubt and anxiety have to take a toll on you! Also, the children see you crying....what is that doing to them?
As Madkitty said, no one can tell you what to do! I would take off of my own wedding ring and say nothing. Believe me...He WILL notice it! and question you. Upon his inquiry, still say nothing!

You are wise to seek counseling, and I wanted to mention that as a public school teacher, my insurance has paid for most of it in the past. I hope this is the case for you as well! Have you checked on this?

You feel you love the man, don't you! Keep in mind, though, that his behavior is NOT loving toward you!

Patty