Interesting, I have never read about this before. As long as I can remember I "cared" so much it hurt. I will have to ask my therapist about this, he says I am a humanist and I wonder if that is the same thing. My husband has always said to me "you care too much" and that he has never met anyone like me, where when I see someone struggling I stop and take the time to help them. One therapist I had told me not to spend time at PC because I will spend too much time helping others and not take care of myself. But what if one "likes" helping others?

At Christmas, I am the last one to open gifts, well, I spend so much thought in what I get for people I want to see them open their gifts up, I enjoy that more than opening my own gifts tbh.

I always felt the best thing was when I had a student or someone I love walk away with a skip in their step because they achieved something. I will never understand any gain by making someone unhappy or to pick on them or take advantage of them somehow or gang up on someone, what is the gain, what is the point?