At some point, it's ok to not give into their requests. I refer to it as a power play and a catch 22. I've learned by letting go of people pleasing tendencies and it has helped immensely.
Clarity came by way of my ex husband. Couldn't please him to save my life. Which turned into a dangerous situation. But I've certainly grown from that experience. Makes me a better friend, mother, boss, employee and partner.