If he's anything like my stbxh......he's probably thinking that you are the one that's going to HAVE TO LEAVE.......will he be surprised when the judge says you get the house & He's OUTTA THERE.

That was always the issue with my stbxh in our Calif home.....he wasn't about to leave.....unfortunately at the time the house wasn't worth what the loan was & with all the debt that he created by his irresponsible financial ways.....we both would have been homeless splitting everything 50/50........

I actually gave him the home by signing the quit claim over to him when he let it go into foreclosure last year since I have my own paid for farm. They gave him a loan modification which still left me on the loan but once the divorce is final, I fax them the divorce information & then they can't come at me for the loan default I know is going to happen VERY SOON.

Some men are such a pain.......we do wonder why we wasted so much time before getting the divorce.......for me it was financial issues since 1994 ( that's 20 years even though the last 7 at least I wasn't having to live with him)....before that, I had my career to hide out in & no interesting guy had come into my life to really give me a better option & I pretty much did my own thing & had my own interests with music & other activities that he was no part of.

Only a few months ago, I started digging into researching the idea of what was wrong with him all those years & even into his childhood that my first psychologist here had suggested......first time in all these years that I have had an explanation that 100% describes every issue that I have with him including the issue I had before we got married that made me NOT want to get married in the first place. Back in 1975, no one knew that there could actually be something that would make a person never mature emotionally or responsibly that had a college degree & a high IQ.

Only good the research has done is to help me deal with my anger toward him it hasn't made me like him any more than I ever did with all the fighting he caused.......

I'm sure you will find the same relief & peace that I found in finally getting away.....but you will enjoy the extra peace of having the divorce final before I get to that point...lol.

What a celebration I'm sure you will have when this is over.