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Originally Posted by msandsm
I'm pleased that you have so much to do. But I don't. In fact, I have a very difficult time finding things I want to do, so I have plenty of time to obsess about my record-keeping.
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Maybe it would be a wise thing for you to put the time & effort that you spend record-keeping into finding things that you could enjoy doing & would he a more productive way of spending your time?
In DBT.....they call it "DISTRACTIONS"....things that we find to do that keep us from doing harm to ourselves......
things like volunteering at places that desperately need peoples help.......nursing home, humane society, older people in the community that could really use someone to visit & maybe even fix a dinner for them, going to a movie with a friend, we have community arts centers here in the different counties & it's fun to volunteer or at our local one in the town I live, individual people can make things & sell them in their own little personal space they set up (I never have time to get ahead on the things & make beyond the birthdays or holidays I'm making them for), art classes, dancing classes.......they have a new Irish dancing class they are offering here. Volunteering as a guide at a local museum or historical building, local drama group.....when I first moved here I joined the reading group at the library....we had a month to read the book, then had a wonderful discussion on it. Fairly close to my farm we have the KY Horse Park where back in 2010 they had the World Equestrian games.....I volunteered to do something & ended up getting on the decoration crew which actually does all the floral decorations for the annual eventing show & the leader of the decoration crew gets other calls for decorating for other shows......so several times a year we get to play around with all the beautiful flowers.
There are so many areas where people desperately are in need of volunteers, I would think that would not only help them but also help you.
Shoot, I'm so fascinated by the tadpoles that came from the eggs that the tree frogs laid about a month ago.....I am spending a lot of time making sure they are fed & doing well as they turn into little frogs (I have over 100).
Hiking is another wonderful way to spend time....getting out in the fresh air. I enjoy it best on the back of a horse, but also love to hike around different places & exploring....or bird watching....or even doing plant identification.......ah, that's how I found out what poison ivy looks like......also, found out what hemlock looks like.....& I thought it was Queen Anne's lace.
Finding a hobby that you enjoy is also something that can take time to figure out, but it something that it very rewarding once you do figure it out.
When I was trapped in my bad marriage, I have to admit....I didn't want to do anything...shoot, I didn't even want to live....but now that I am free from that I have been able to start living again & truly finding out WHO I really am. It doesn't completely cure the not eating issues....but it definitely keeps them under better control most of the time unless something really stressful hits me.