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Originally Posted by elmonta33
I've married last year, I met my wife during a work in Africa, we had a very short relationship before getting married. She Joint me 4 months ago in the Netherlands, when she came I thought she will be able to integrate very quickly but unfortunately I've realised that she can't speak not even fair English but also she lacks communication skills. If any of my friends came to visit she keeps quiet and not trying to converse with not only men but also women. Simply she can't make friends. Also, the main problem is that she is not trying to improve her language to be able to depend on herself on her daily activities e.g shopping, seeing family doctor. Also, we do not have anything in common that we can talk about like literature and politics, even general knowledge. Because of this I don't feel happy and I'm really thinking to divorce though she is pregnant now. Would you please give some advices noting that we are from the same ethnicity!
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brother, think twice please. dig more reasons why you committed yourself in the first place. think about the vow to be married, it takes tons of sacrifices. I know there are some could have and would have but there is no more time for that. I understand you had short engagement, you assumed she will do what you expected which means you didn't discuss about that expectation, how about discussing now? maybe she feels like getting divorce too - oops. do you know what she expected from you? maybe she can't do too much while at first pregnancy, did you think of that? seems like you married someone you admired not someone you loved. May God direct you to the right path.