I think it is hard because the man has to make all the moves. Culturally at least. If you are shy and not great with initial conversation and not a "player" it makes it real hard. Sometimes things just happen without doing anything. I have watched guys just go up to a girl pumping gas and start talking and get her number. Why can't I do that. At one point I got over that hump and could ask a girl to coffee without to much trouble. But then what do i talk about. How do I be interesting. I am great once I know someone and they know me.

I guess the best thing is take the first step and if you see a girl you like just ask her for coffee.