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Originally Posted by HazelGirl
I also end up feeling like I need to pay people back whenever they do anything for me, like I am in their debt and if I don't pay them back in some way, they will come to resent and dislike me. I feel "one down" in all my relationships, like I owe everyone way too much and like I am constantly bordering on being rejected because I take too much from others.
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I have so much trouble with this myself. To the point where I almost didn't let a guy help me put my carry on suitcase in an overhead airline bin on a recent business trip. I caught myself and let him do it, but it bothered me the whole trip that I accepted help and I can never pay that person back. I "scorecard" favors in relationships too. I get it.