Numbers shouldn't matter. It shouldn't be about who you slept with or how often . It should be about being in a healthy, committed relationship with your significant other. If you are going to worry about the numbers of partners your spouse has had then you need to question yourself . Are you Insecure? Jealous? Shocked ? It shouldn't bother you. It's about right now, this minute, are you going to let what may be the love of your life get away because of someone they slept with before they met you? They are with you for a reason. Try to not let the little things bother you. Trust is the most important part of being in a relationship. And one more little gem... Don't ask questions you don't want the answers to