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Originally Posted by Bill3
It does make sense.
It happens here, but with less intensity than in real life.
I am thinking that there is a choice: one can recognize that you are speaking here even in the face of these difficult emotions, and give you credit.
Or, one can focus on the fact that there is less intensity here than IRL, and minimize your accomplishment in speaking here.
What is your thinking about these options?
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I wasn't really trying to minimize (I don't think...), more explain why I was able to ask for help here and not IRL. I am capable of asking here because it's easier and less intense. Whether I give myself credit for it or not wasn't my focus at the time. But TBH, it's hard for me to take credit for it. It's hard for me to think "Hey, I can do it here so maybe I can do it IRL." It doesn't transfer over very well, at least not in my head. And again, I think at least part of that is not knowing what exactly I need from people sometimes. I know I need something, but I have no idea what, and that makes it hard to ask, because not only do I need whatever it is I need, I need help figuring out what I need. And that's horribly embarrassing, on top of being really intimidating.