I have had very similar thoughts. I hate to be needy... it makes me more vulnerable. If I don't need anyone, then they can't hurt me. If they help me, then I feel like I must return the favor two times over, because I don't want to owe anyone anything..... so in a way I think I understand where you are coming from...

The fact is we all need to be needed and we all need to be cared for, but for us to be needy means we are vulnerable to be hurt.. and that is something that for many of us, including myself, is just to hard to bare at times.... take it in baby steps.... don't look at it as needy, as much as allowing someone one to get their need met by helping you out. That is how I have to look at it. Sometimes it works, sometimes it doesn't, but I understand what you are saying... being needy and allowing someone to meet that need makes me feel very vulnerable