For a woman, I think attacking our appearance is quite devastating. I don't know another woman alive who doesn't dislike some aspect of their appearance. The American "ideal" is not even human in a way. At least not without surgery or spending hours in the gym every single day, etc. As we age (I'm 43) it gets even rougher. I agree with Clara22 that we have to find people who accept us as we are. I know I don't judge my different friends appearances, whereas I can be brutal towards myself.