What about bringing yourself to orgasm in the presence of your partner as part of your love-making? Is that approved? Would that count as masturbation? How do you do the eyes wide open thing if you need to wear your glasses and you've placed them on the night table? I'm really uncomfortable with these claims. I'm sure eyes wide open is as a nice experience but there are many ways to spice up your relationship with your partner. Women (or for that matter anyone) should not be discouraged from a sensual/sexual relationship with their own bodies. I just plain don't belive the statistics as I have had a relationship with myself and with my husband of 29 years. The only problem I have experienced is because of lexapro, not masturbation! Just my thoughts.......