On line dating... a big No No. Its all over blown. Lots of good advice coming on her for the OP and I think the bottom line is to look at yourself and see what you want to see.
I have been living with been incel all my life and despite been a virgin at my age with I kind you not no emotional or sexual experience at all I have only in the passed year or so been able to come to terms with this. Not every bit of advice will be useful to you but as I say in the first line... you need to see yourself for what you want to see.