yes, Patty, and that is why it hurts so much! You are right, his behavior is NOT loving toward me. The pain is real and knowing that I have possibly failed at two marriages just makes me feel even worse. I feel so bad for my kids...because if we do divorce, they're see a loser-mommy.

Hey, another mind game here...help me! Yesterday morning he asked where his ring was. I told him it's in my jewelry box. He asked me why I put it away when I cleaned but put everything else back. He called me later and asked me to put it back where it was. I didn't do it and he didn't ask for it. He left without it again this morning. Here's my problem...he will say, "I told you to put it back and you didn't so I'm not going to wear it." Do you see how I feel like I'm being "mind-gamed-controlled".... Oh please help me here!!!