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Originally Posted by livelaughlove22
She's a very independent little girl and doesn't like being touched, nurtured, held or anything. Her therapist told me ideas for how to get her to attach to me, but they aren't working. She is not a mother, and I was wondering if anyone had any advice from a motherly prospective of what to do here. She won't let me make her anything to eat, read to her, put her to sleep or anything.
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I'd take the approach of taking it very slow. Take things, at a close distance, I'd suspect. Downplay, in your mind, all the visions of what nurturing would seem like. Sometimes, an approach as though, this is a new roommate, yet, she's a minor. Does she at least go to sleep, when told it's bedtime? Like a friend that has just been through the ringer, your very presence could be enough. How is she eating, if she isn't allowing you to make things?
Offering her, a safe environment could be just what she needs right now. Let her come to you, when she's ready.