I consider there to be a bigger distance between wants and needs. I can take care of my own needs barring extremely unusual circumstances like being in a coma. I don't find it selfish to do so, I just don't see what the point of involving others would be. With wants, sometimes other people could be not unuseful even if not an actual requirement. So if I want to be not lonely, I call a friend and we go biking or something. The therapist has said it appears I don't ask for help, but I just do not see that I require help very often. I would seek assistance if it was required. But if not required, why would I choose to muck things up by adding in more people?
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Selfishness is not living as one wishes to live, it is asking others to live as one wishes to live.
Oscar Wilde
Well Behaved Women Seldom Make History - Laurel Thatcher Ulrich
Pain is inevitable. Suffering is optional.
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