its all good. no hard feelings. i just got concerned about the message that the poster might be taking (i.e., that it was indeed a severe problem that she had caused in herself because she had masterbated without looking in her partners (husband?) eyes).

brings up interesting issues about 'merger' relationships too...

i'm reminded of an alanis morrissette song (i found this line quite striking)

'I believe that one and one makes two'