I think getting a counselor is a good idea. Of all your female friends, is there one you'd like to date? Have you asked her? If she said no, can you ask her why she said no? Now would be the time to get honest answers.

Being a bit overweight is no problem to some people. There is a guy where I work who is sometimes a bit heavier, sometimes a bit thinner but he is always a bit pudgy and he is so cute! In looks and personality! If I were his age, I'd be making eyes at him big-time!

So don't assume your weight is a bar to all dates. A supermodel might say no to you, but a woman who has her own few extra pounds to lose might say yes--something to keep in mind.

What do you like to do? Do you like to dance? Go skating? Bicycling? Go kayaking? Do you like the opera or the theater or certain bands? If you are going to date you need to get out and be seen. Doing what you enjoy makes you your most attractive self to others who also enjoy your interests or hobbies.

Do you go to religious services? This might be a way for you to meet people.

If you volunteer at women-friendly places, you are bound to meet women. Animal shelters, save the earth type organizations, charities of all sorts are possibilities.

Something I have noticed lately around where I live: Men who are no longer kids -- so your age up to their 40s and 50s -- wearing the most outlandish getups I've seen since the 60s. Old ill-fitting worn out shorts paired with an offensive t-shirt and white socks and wingtip shoes--wearing that outfit is going to make your search for a woman 10 times harder. Weird hair, bizarre facial hair and strange hats are also off-putting. The skater boy look on older men is scary. It should go without saying but apparently not given what I see on a daily basis, so I'll say it: don't smell, don't smell weird or wear loud fragrance, do keep your teeth nice, don't pick your nose, don't spit on the sidewalk or have grubby nails, or be rude to strangers.

In conversation with women, don't bring up your mother and remember most people like to talk about themselves. I hope this helps