Well, this convo got a little off track...

I think that "needs" can also be "wants", or things like "in order to make this easier on myself, I could ask for help". My problem is that it feels wrong to ask, when in reality it shouldn't. I should be able to consider asking for help and actually asking for help without fear or pain, whether it's a want or a need. I can't consider it without a level of discomfort in asking and a feeling of rejection if I'm refused. Therefore, something is wrong inside me causing me to react in this way.

And I do believe a lot of it ties into attachment, as archipelago has pointed out.