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Aug 31, 2014, 03:10 PM
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Originally Posted by Zoe86
Is it possible that you are surrounded by your family you love and care, but feeling at the same time alone? You also know that they love you and care about you but it doesn't help you? This is at the moment my situation and it's making me so sad that I can't stop this feelings.
Why is it, when they ask you how your day was or how are you feeling that you are always saying that it was a good day and I'm fine? Why can't you simple say I'm not OK, that I'm tired and feeling so lonely.
I have such up and downs. Today I have these thoughts and tomorrow I'll think why I'm so silly thinking such things, when other people in the world are in a more badly situation? But I can't help it. I always telling myself how good my life is and I should be very happy and grateful, but I know that something is missing. I'm feeling so hollow. I have no real friends to talk to and it burdens me much.
Please, I need some help. Maybe somebody has an advice for me!
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Hello Zoe86: What you are experiencing is exactly what I experience, so I know where you're coming from with this. I'm not personally surrounded by family. It's just my wife & me. But she loves me & cares deeply for me & yet I feel completely alone. And whenever she asks if I'm okay, I say: "oh sure, I'm just tired..." or something similar. And I also have those thoughts about how can I feel so bad when others have it so much worse...
Of course, therapy is one answer here. I don't have a T. But many people are helped by them & the aloneness & guilt you feel are two of the types of things people go to therapy for. And, of course, posting here on PC as you have done can help too! Beyond that, I would think that if you could find one or two family members whom you could open up to, this would help. Keeping this stuff bottled up inside is definitely not the answer. Somehow, somewhere you must find a way to "ventilate" these thoughts & feelings. Therapy groups can also be a valuable resource if there are any you could access. Some people find that meditation & various forms of exercise are helpful. There are also telephone hotlines one can call. In the U.S. there's the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline. One does not have to be feeling suicidal to call. They advertise that they're there to help with any problem. So you could just call a hotline of this kind & talk about the feelings you're having.
The one other idea I have is, from my personal perspective, I think it's important to find something you're passionate about you can pursue. It doesn't matter what it is, I don't think. But it needs to be something you love. I've had an on-again / off-again meditation & yoga practice over the years. Recently I've been trying to revive this & put new emphasis on it as a way of "ventilating" my own feelings of aloneness & guilt. (So far, so good...) Best wishes... 
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