I know alot of families where one or the other stays home and takes care of the home male and female , Mostly due to the cost of childcare costs or homeschooling etc ..

But sadly its common that especially in fights that one person is upset that the other isnt leaving the house for X amounts of hours a day and bringing home a paycheck .

There is a difference between not wanting to work and not being able to work. What have you learned in therapy that could help you want to go enter the work force?

Maybe start calling around and finding out what childcare would cost would be a good thing so that you could both sit down and discuss the financial aspect .. Before after school care for school age kids and then fulltime summer care.

Who would need to stay home when a child is sick or has Doctor appointments? I personally believe that if both people are out working then all the household chores and cooking needs to be done by both people.

Also you say you dont drive ? well then you would need to learn and obtain a license and another vehicle would be needed so money for that is going to come from where?

Maybe marriage counselling would be helpful ? Doesn't sound like you two are able to have a calm discussion about the realities of your marriage.

Good luck