(((((((((((((Candy))))))))))))))
You are NOT a loser. Not in any way shape or form. I'm sorry to hear that you are hurting like this, and i honestly wish that there was something that i could do to ease your pain.
Hang in there my friend ... confide in those you trust, and just know that you have many people on here that are here for you (myself included!!!). Feel free to PM if you ever want to talk, or just want someone to listen .. i'm all yours!
Jacq