Maybe she's putting it aside cuz you're married to a guy? Unless you are actively involved in another relationship, or are planning to be, what problem are you trying to solve? Just that you feel different or that people would not be accepting? That sounds like an issue that would be better addressed with a focus on your feelings, not on what you presume other people are thinking. If there are particular people or incidents, such as parents or schoolmates and bullying, that might be a key. Plus some people dont think bi is a real thing, they see it as pre-gay