I'm not sure if I follow completely, but I have a few responses. I'm bisexual too and have experienced a lot of bias from both straight and queer communities about it. I think that is a given for this culture. There are studies that show that bisexual women experience more "micro-aggression" and therefore stress than straight or lesbian woman.

I'm not fond of CBT, but even if I were, I would say that this is not part of your "schema." It is part of a big social problem. And you are correct in experiencing it as a difference and difficulty.

Therapists regardless of theoretical orientation have to be aware of and sensitive to diversity issues; it is part of the ethical code. In other words, you are not allowed to ignore it and can't possibly say it is out of scope of practice or whatever.

But I don't have practical advise because I don't know how to talk about such things with someone with a CBT orientation. My therapist is relational and interpersonal so our relationship and who we are as people is the vehicle through which the therapy works. It is hard for me to imagine how a therapy would work without taking the relationship and who you are as central. I have heard that CBT types are starting to see the importance of the relationship and have begun to add it. I suppose you could say that if she seems not to want to talk about how you are interacting.