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Old Aug 31, 2014, 08:26 PM
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I wonder the same thing a lot about my own family.

Over time I've came to a few conclusions:
1. my mom viewed me as an extension of herself, and was very angered when I stopped complying.
2. my family structure was very sexist and I was resistant to that from a very early age
3. I'm more introverted and intellectual than my family members; I have different interests, preferences, and skills. this singled me out a lot.
4. they had expectations that were unrealistic for me, combined with not providing me with any support or love really.

etc etc.

I'm me, and while ME wasn't acceptable to them.... I can figure out why I wasn't acceptable to them, and after years of trying to be what they wanted... I realized I couldn't and I like me better the way I am now anyway. It's their issue, not mine. Doesn't stop it hurting like a mofo though...
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