((((((((muse)))))))))) you, are not getting anyone's nerves. remember that, that's what people are here for, to get and give help. you want help and some compassion, it's understandable.

I'm sorry about your Mom, if it helps at all my mother is the exact same. So is my "stepdad" too actually.

Wish I could help, but all I can do is offer support. Sorry.